Finding my sanity!

I have been making an effort to make things more fun for me and for my boys.  Some of the things I have done this week to accomplish this are:

-Instead of fussing at the boys for running in the Jazzercise building I played tag with them until customers started arriving.
-Instead of telling Jensen to get off my stage I had him do a routine with me.
-Instead of saying for the 1,000,000,000th time "Jensen DON'T TOUCH MY IPOD!" I found something for him to pretend was his ipod.
-Instead of taking the Nerf guns away from the boys for shooting each other, we set up a shooting range on landscape timbers using the recycling.
-Instead of sending Joel to his room for quite time because he wouldn't quit talking at school I went to his room with him and we talked and talked and talked!
-Instead of stressing about healthy snacks I let the boys eat cereal and oatmeal.
-Instead of worrying about the fact that the big boys cut their own hair and rushing them to get a new haircut, I left it alone.  Jackson is sporting a nice gap in the front but he doesn't mind so I don't either.
-Instead of pushing the potty training I am taking cues from my 2 year old.  When he is ready he will let me know, but that doesn't stop me if I catch him "in the moment" and rushing him to the potty for 1 less poopy diaper to change.
-Instead of losing my cool because Joel is refusing to take his medicine I calmly explain to him why we need it and how proud he will feel when he is feeling better because he took his medicine like a champ!
-Instead of getting frustrated because all my boys want to talk at once and they just get louder and louder, I recognize each one "Ok Jackson, what did you want to say?  OK Joel, now it is your turn, what were you saying?  Jensen do you have anything you would like to tell Mommy or your brothers?"  It seems to be working at least for now.

So those are just a few of the things that have helped me be a little less crazy this week.  And on these rainy days I need as much help as I can get with 3 stir crazy boys!

Working harder!

As soon as I was old enough to notice there are people in the world other than me I have noticed that my mom can't take a compliment.  Every "You look great!" my mother gets is followed by a "Oh yea" (insert heavy sacastic tone).  "Wow this dessert is wonderful."  is followed by "Oh it was nothing, really."  I have fussed at her for years.  Just accept how great you are and say "Thank you".  Now I am a mom and most of my friends are moms and I have found that it must be a mom thing.  I have been working hard lately to lose some weight and I have been pretty successful.  I have been met with lots of "Wow Mary Lynn you look so skinny", "you have lost some weight, you look great" you know that kind of thing.  All these compliments and words of encouragement ususally get the same response "Whatever!!!  I am so not skinny!" or "I still have lots to lose."  Why is it so hard to say thank you???  I think once we become mothers we want to shift the focus from ourselves to others.  For some strange reason as moms we think that if we accept a compliment it means we are making others feel bad.   Like if my mom accepts a compliment on a wonderful dessert she is saying "it wouldn't hurt you to crack a cook book every now and then".  So today and am going to start trying to listen to what I have been telling my Momma for years.  I am working harder at saying thank you and being proud of the things that I do and not making it out to be no big deal.  And my hope is that all my mommy friends will do the same because you are all FABULOUS!

It's all about Jensen!

It's been awhile since I talked a bit about my sweet Jensen and he has changed so much!  He has gone from being a baby, so easy and cuddly and sweet to being 2.  I won't say terrible 2 because he is anything but terrible but at times he is a trying 2.   Into EVERYTHING, if it is within his reach it must belong to him!  He is curious and I keep telling myself that is a good thing.  He is testing his limits and I keep telling myself that is good too but with that comes testing Mommy's patience and that is not good!  I can't count the number of times in a day that I say "Jensen WHAT ARE YOU DOING?????"  Most people who have or have had a 2 year old know exactly what I am talking about.

Well along with the getting into everything and the climbing the furniture and dragging all the toys out and general messes of 2 comes the joy of a 2 year old.  Jensen goes around the house and says: "Is this a toy? No.  Is this a toy? No."  He will say that about 10 times about 10 different things until he finds something he thinks is acceptable as a toy.  It is hilarious!  He prefaces everything he says with "Mommy, can I tell you something?"  For example "Mommy can I tell you something?  I need a diaper change.  Mommy can I tell you something?  I love you.  Mommy can I tell you something?  Can I watch Mickey Mouse?"  Also hilarious!  No matter what you say to him the first thing he says is "What?".  I think it is because you can't always understand a 2 yr old so a lot of the time when he tells me something I say "what?"  because I don't understand what he said.  Either that or it is genetic, my Dad says if the first thing I say is "what?"  then I am about to be less that truthful and I need a minute to make it good.

Jensen is the baby brother with 2 older brothers teaching him all about the world.  They teach him to run and jump and spit and all the boy stuff that Mommy doesn't know about or doesn't want to know about.  They have made him tough, he can hold his own.  As a matter of fact Jackson and Joel come crying to me often because "Jensen hit/pinched/scratched/pulled my hair!!"  I think he is being proactive, trying to teach his big brothers he is not to be messed with.

Being the mother of 3 boys is a constant battle and a constant joy!  I spend most of my day refereeing and cleaning up various messes.  It is all so worth it because I am well paid.  I can't count the number of unsolicited hugs and kisses and I love yous that I get in a day.  Even when I am teaching a Jazzercise class and they can't talk to me they tell me they love me in sign language.  I am often told that in many cultures have 3 sons is considered a huge blessing and I know from experience that is really is! 

It's just easier if I do it myself.

Did anyone watch Desparate Housewives on Sunday?  Well there was one particular part of the episode that I related to completely.  Lynette's grown sons don't even know where she keeps the eggs, much less how to prepare them because Mom's answer is always "It's just easier if I do it myself".  For anyone who doesn't speak "mommy" that translates to I want to take care of my children and keep them little as long as possible.  We (maybe I should say "I") like to feel needed because one of these days our little ones will leave the nest.  I get teared up just thinking about it.

Jackson talks about growing up all the time.  He has it all worked out.  He is going to live in California (this changes depending on the day) and Mommy and Daddy are invited over every Sunday for pancakes.  Pancakes are our family breakfast most Sundays.  Sometimes he is going to live next door to me and connect our houses with a bridge, I am sure his future wife will love this!  Sometimes he is going to live with me until I am 99.  No matter how his plans change even Jackson knows he won't be with me forever.

Lately I have been working on letting them all do things for themselves, make their own beds, clean their rooms, take their dishes to the sink, shower with minimal help from me, pick out their own clothes (this one is the hardest for me) and so on.  The big thing is learning to tie our own shoes.  Geez you would think I was asking them to climb Mt. Everest!  We whine and cry and there is a lot of "Mommy I just can't do it!!!!!!!  Pllllleeeeeaaaassssseeeee do it for me!  I will tie my own shoes when I am 15 (this is the magic age for my boys not sure why)."  So I sit and I demonstrate and then I talk them through it and then they have to try.  Man this really is easier if I just do it myself!!!!  But then what?  I end up with grown sons who can't tie their own shoes.  I stay calm and patient in the face of all the whining and I don't give into my urge to keep my babies little.  Finally results!  And we are one step closer to having a self sufficient man!  Again I have tears in my eyes!

The most romantic man in Habersham County!

A couple of weeks ago Jason informed me that the Northeast Georgian was having a contest.  In 300 words or less women would write about why their husband/boyfriend was the most romantic man in Habersham!  I laughed it off thinking he was just being silly.  He mentioned it again and then again, I starting to think he might be serious about this.  Then the icing on the cake, he sent me the link to the contest!  My first response was "Honey you aren't what most women would think of as romantic."  His reply:  "WHAT????  You must be crazy!"  My second thought, I am a horrible writer!  He could be the world's most romantic man, he could a world renowned author writing on the topic of romance and I wouldn't be able to convey to the world why he was romantic.  But for my husband, who I love 4 (it's an inside joke), I entered this contest and I did my best!  And here is my entry:

Why is my husband the most romantic man?  There are a million reasons that I love him and just as many little things he does that mean we belong together.   My husband is not a man for the huge romantic gesture.  He is more a man of timing the small things perfectly.  When I am sad he makes me rootbeer floats because they always cheer me up.  He plans a getaway for just the two of us once a year because he still enjoys spending time with his wife.  He puts time and thought into every gift. He knows me so well he buys me the things that I never knew I always wanted.  When we argue he tells me he is "going to be married to me for the rest of his life" so it is important to talk until we figure out the problem and come to an agreement on how to fix it.  We have been married for almost 13 years and I cannot express how much that simple sentence means to me "I am going to be married to you for the rest of my life".  In a world that takes marriage too lightly he is still pleading his undying love to me.  I am going to love you forever.  He chose me to be his wife and to share his life with and he chooses me everyday and that is what makes him the most romantic guy around.

So do you think I have a chance?  You know what it doesn't matter if I win the dinner at the Attic.  I am happily married to a man that was hand picked for me.  I am more blessed than I ever would have imagined, so whether I am having dinner at the Attic as a contest winner or having sandwiches at home I won!

Shoveling Snow.

As all of my friends and neighbors know we were blessed with 6 inches of snow last week!  My boys couldn't have been happier.  My husband and I often joke about the fact the 1/4 inch of snow is enough for a Georgia boy to sled on so you can imagine how excited my boys were to be in snow up to their knees!  We made snow angels (6 inches is too much snow for snow angels but it was fun anyway), the boys sledded down our huge hill and nearly gave me a heart attack but they laughed the whole time.  Friends came over for hot chocolate.  We stayed in and had family movie day.  It was lots of fun, until Wednesday!

On Wednesday I decided that the driveway must be shoveled!  Now that is was less snow and more ice and the work was 10X harder I had to get it done!  I went outside and I shoveled for a while before I decided I wanted some company.  I didn't expect my boys to help but I wanted them outside enjoying the day with me.  Joel LOVES to help.  He grabbed a shovel and went straight to work.  About 15 minutes into our hard work I told Joel I was so proud of him for helping without  being asked and that I was going to pay him $5!  He was very excited, he shoveled harder than ever.  We worked for at least another hour and Joel stopped and looked at me and said "Mommy, this isn't even worth it!" and he put his shovel away and went inside.  I agree Joel!  But he did go out and help finish the job the next day.

Oh and Jackson helped too!  Of course his Daddy had to strongly recommend that Jackson help his mother and he only lasted about 20 minutes.  But help is help and I was happy to have the break!

Welcome 2011

A new year has begun and we are so excited!  We have lots of projects and lots of plans. Wonder how our lives will change in the next year, they are hardly recognizable from this time last year.  Small changes are already happening.  My sweet Jackson is about to lose his first tooth and officially start shedding his baby face.  Before the year is over my Joel E will be saying good-bye to Preschool and starting Kindergarten.  And my baby Jensen will probably be potty trained before the month is out.  Some changes are small but I feel certain that we will have some big changes on the horizon.  No matter what this year holds for the Tinsley family we are approaching it with a positive attitude.  Only good things in store for us this year!  And this year I am going to do the project 365 to show everyone what a happy year we have!  Day 4 and I am all over it!  Check out the photo below looks like Joel is already not in the mood to cooperate.  Well it is good to know that some things won't change!

It is nice that some things will remain the same.  I can count on my friends being there for me when I call.  I can count on my husband always being able to make me laugh and pull my hair out, sometimes at the same time.  I can count on Jackson having a million questions and then a million suggestions on how to make things better.  I can count on Joel doing things his own way, throwing a tantrum that ends up in a fit of laughter when I have the patience to give him my undivided attention.  I can count on Jensen giving me hugs and kisses and making everything better with his sweet smile.  I hope I can count on him being a momma's boy for at least one more year.  So many things that I can count on.  Guess I will recount this next year and see what has changed and what has and will always remain the same.

HAPPY NEW YEAR!